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The Past Year- Part II

I spent the rest of the night with my daughter and friends watching fire works and playing games.  I had so much fun with them, as I always do.  They are a great couple who have been together for 10 years.  They’re both stunt people who met on the job.  They married really young and spent their time working and growing together until they were ready to have a family.  They made sure they were well established and ready.  I admire them for all of those things, and I guess it was an eye opener that it’s still possible for me to have someone I can marry young and grow up with.  Maybe have a best friend and a good, supportive relationship instead of what I had experienced recently.

I was really sick around that time.  I had a horrible sinus infection and had lost my voice totally that night at their house.  I spent the next few days in bed resting and trying to get better.  Thursday was a rough day, but Friday I was feeling a little better.  And for some reason totally still unknown to me, I could not stop thinking about what I could possibly be missing out on if I didn’t at least message him and say hi.  Maybe reach out and offer an ear about his recent breakup since I, a year ago, went through something similar.  I kept talking myself out of it, though, because who was I kidding? He was in Oklahoma, I’m all the way in California.  There’s no way he’d even be interested in me, I’m sure he wanted to be single for a while and why was I thinking that far ahead anyway?

But 8pm came along, and I decided to write him anyway.  So I took to Facebook, found his name, and messaged him.  It was short and sweet, and very vague.

Hey you! I know this is totally random. But my aunt is good friends with your mom, and she told me about ya! Just wanted to reach out and say hi. How are you?

yes she told me about you as well! I’m good, just catching up with old friends. how’re you?

He replied.  And it began a total nonstop message/text-a-thon.  He was intriguing from the get go.  That night he was spending time with friends, and from posts on Facebook it was apparent that it had been a while since he’d been able to do that.  I tried not to interfere too much, because I didn’t want to be rude but we just continued to talk and share things.  I don’t know what it was but there was a level of understanding that I hadn’t found with anyone else, ever.  Ever.

I didn’t even think about the fact that he was so far away.  I forgot about the fact that he had just broken up with someone, as I could just tell that it was a situation similar to mine before that it was over long before it ended.  I trusted what he said and I wanted to hear his opinions and thoughts on everything.  This was all immediate.  For me, there was no time to stop and think, and after all that hesitation and naysaying before, I was all in.  No matter what the outcome, I knew that this was a good man and that I made the best choice by reaching out to him.

I know this sounds kinda corny.  I’m just telling ya the story, folks.  Anyway, I was set to be in Oklahoma 25 days from then, and I was counting every second.  Besides the excitement and impatience of waiting for my daughter to arrive when I was pregnant, I had never been so excited for anything in my life.  I was nervous to see him for the first time.  Even though our families were great friends, we had shared some friends, went to the same school (me a little earlier than him), and lived in the same town forever, we had never met.  I was so ready, and it was the longest countdown of ever.

I suppose I wont bore you with all the gushy details of what happened.  But I will say that it tore me apart to have to leave him that time, and every time after that was more difficult than the last.  I’d never known myself to mourn like that over an event or person.  It was intense.  There were times that I knew he was afraid to make the move here, and was understanding that it was a huge change.  But I continued to talk with him about it and love him until one day he started making arrangements to come be together here.  Everything worked out so smoothly, but I will forever be traumatized by the pain of not being with him everyday and having to wait.

He’s been here now for almost 2 months.  We are still trying to figure out our “groove”, but it’s better than anything I could’ve ever imagined.  We talk about everything openly and trustfully.  We have conversations I’ve never been able to have with anyone else.  My daughter loves him, and he loves her and greets her first when he comes home from his Personal Banker job.  It’s amazing, and I’m so glad that I opened up to it.  I truly also believe that my experiences with people throughout my life, starting as a young child all the way to my old career gave me the foresight that he’s an amazing human being.  I’ve met so many different kinds of people from many different spectrums and I’ve been through so many things that I think it’s a little easier for me to decipher good from bad and excellent from “not for me”.  If anything, all that stuff just built me up to this now, and is helping me start a life that I can create and enjoy exactly the way that I want it.  There’s not really much I can do now except love the one I’m with, start a life, and grow together.  That’s just fine, because it’s all that I want, and is perfect for me.

Now that he’s here, I’ve got to make sure he likes it.  There’s a lot to love about California, but it took me a long time to be as content as I am with it now.  Even that’s not the highest level of contentment.  He’s got a great job.  I’ve started a new job at the local Chevy dealership that I love.  I work in the internet sales department as a direct assistant to the manager, and salesperson.  I got my license to sale, and I work Chevy, Cadillac and Land Rover.  It’s rewarding, fun, and I get to work hours that allow me to be home with my daughter most of the time.  If you’ve read the stories here from when I first started the site, you’d know that I started working in the car business and loved it even then.  So it’s almost like I’ve come full circle.  Ever heard that saying “If I knew then, what I know now..”?  Well it’s kinda like I for real get the chance to know things that I should’ve known then, and I get to start all over, but with so much more to begin with.

I don’t know how, but I’ve gotten so lucky as of lately.  I’m not going to question it though, I’m just going to keep going.  It feels good, and it’s a very supportive and loving situation.  I feel so blessed.

Meanwhile, during all of this I started a website dedicated to telling the truth about my old career, and chronicling my journey as that person that I don’t even know anymore.  It has been a VERY therapeutic experience.  I get to tell my truths and help you all to understand the differences between her and I while telling an enthralling story.  At the same time, I remember so many things I surpressed, and it’s helping me deal with them properly and let them all go.  Forgiving myself is important to me.  I need to do so in order for Travis to see the real me, and for me to be able to raise my daughter without any guilt.

All of these new and exciting things have given me a totally new outlook on life and the things I want for myself.  My daughter has been my everything through all this, and she always will be.  But Travis really helped push me over that wall that I just couldn’t seem to reach the top of by myself.

So everything from this point, on this site as in life, will be going forward.  The only place I will speak of “that” is on the site mentioned above.  And when that’s over, and the book comes out, I feel like I will be free and clear.  At least for my own piece of mind, and that’s the most important.  I’ll update my YouTube videos and do Q&A’s.  I’ll try to be as open as possible but please no more questions about that stuff.  There are plenty of places for references of that now

As always, thank you all for your love and continued support.  You guys are all wonderful.



The past year- Part 1

The poll I posted on what to put up next had a tie between this, and a story. But since it’s been so long since I’ve given you all any sort of update on what’s going on with me, I made an executive decision to post the update. About a year ago, I started posting frequent video updates and putting them on my YouTube channel. I would do q&a’s and post other random things as well. I really enjoy doing that, and plan to get back to doing it. Maybe this post will answer any questions you may have as to why I’ve been slacking a little on that.
I believe one of my last updates on YouTube was right after I just moved into my new place back in March. That was a really hectic and confusing time in my life. Not really in a bad way, it was just a lot to take on at the time. I was still trying to get my life back together after all the changes. I was going through some legal stages regarding the custody of my daughter, and I was trying to travel back to Oklahoma as much as possible. It’s always been hard being away from everyone that I know and love, but during that time it was even more difficult. Plus, I really want my daughter to be able to know her family. So I made it a point to go as often as I could. And then, I wasn’t working yet, so my schedule was a lot freer than it is now.
Being that I loved going home to Oklahoma so much, it was hard on me to come home. It became hard on my daughter, too. She started growing into the age of understanding that we were leaving and wouldn’t see them again for a while. The plane rides home were emotional, but once we settled in at home in our routine again I would realize it was so worth it. Then I’d plan my next trip. This went on from last December until September, travelling there about every 5-6 weeks and staying for a week at a time. Our last trips there from July-September were life changing though, and the place we are in now is an excellent result of that.
Before I go on, I just want to express that there is a very fine line between the privacy I’d like to keep and all of the awesome things that I want to share with you all. I’m sure eventually extra details will be shared, but for right now I’ll do the best I can.
I had been single since Aug. of 2011. Single mom, doing the single mom thing; living mostly for the happiness of my child… and by God that’s the way it should be. I had no plans to even so much as date anyone. I wasn’t looking, I wasn’t lonely. I mean sure, I had moments thinking that having “that bond” would be nice. But there was too much going on, and I was nowhere near finding someone to be serious with. Mind you, there were boys that I talked to. But it was never going to be anything serious so it’s was more just for fun and entertainment. There was no sleeping around or anything like that. I think most of you know, I got all that out of my system already. And I’m not the type of mother to do that. Even before now and being a mother, I wasn’t even like that. Not even during my old career. I stuck to doing what I had to do and left the love and sex for when the time was right. And just like it was then, it is now. I saved all the stuff for when it was right, but not planning for anything.
I guess they say that’s how it goes, though. When you least expect it, or aren’t chasing it, or something like that. Plus, everything is different when you’re a single parent. To me, the person has to be just right. No drugs, no addictions, hard worker, and loves my child more than he would me. Because she deserves that, as she’s so loving and amazing. She would accept them and love them, and I didn’t want anyone that would take that for granted or not even notice it. There’s a level of selflessness someone (that I might be interested in) should have. I think that goes without saying. All you single parents out there are probably shaking your heads “yep!”. But for someone that doesn’t have a child, might not know the exact depth of it all. Sure they will be understanding and willing, but if they don’t get it after a certain amount of time, they’ll probably never get it until they have a child of their own. I’m just saying it takes a certain person to come into situation like mine for more reasons than just the daughter. But she’s obviously the biggest one. All that of alone made it easy not to rush into finding someone.
Meanwhile, back in Oklahoma, my aunt was trying to play matchmaker. Her friend that lives two houses down had a son who she talked about all the time. Her and my aunt shared stories and kind of decided on their own that we should at least meet. He had a girlfriend, and my aunt knew good and well that maybe now wasn’t the right time. But she insisted. I got a text from her in June out of nowhere saying “Hurry! Send me some good pics of you. I want to show —— so she can show her son”. Sounds like fun, I thought. So I obliged and send over 2 or 3 pictures of myself (vain, I know). Not too long after that, she returned a few pictures of him. A few were recent, and there was one from high school in which he looked like a baby. He was younger than me, but it struck my interest. So like any normal person, I looked him up on Facebook. To my (sorta)disappointment, it turned out that he had a girlfriend of over 3 years. I’m no home wrecker, so I left it alone and never thought about it again. My aunt said that he’d love to hang out while I was in town, though, to meet and say hi because our families were such good friends. No thanks, I thought. And that was the end.
Along came July, which was only 3 weeks later. I spent the holiday at some friends’ house that I had met while shooting Piranha. They were stunt people and truly some of the coolest and nicest people I’d ever met. I had just gotten back in touch with her, and found out that she had a little boy that was about a year younger than my daughter. It was nice to reconnect, and I was happy to spend the 4th with them. I brought mine and my girl’s clothes with me because we planned on making a whole night of it. There was food, drinks, fireworks, pool, and games. After some swimming, two glasses of wine and a shot of Patron into it, my aunt texts me that her friend’s son broke up with his girlfriend a week ago. She said that “she wasn’t sure what it was” but she really thought that I should contact him somehow. I disagreed entirely. Even if something were to come of it, he had just broken up with her after 3 years and there was no chance I was going there. I simply text her back “thanks, but not gonna happen”.

Okay. This will have to be a two-parter. I’m at work right now (details about that I will cover in part 2). Thanks you guys. It’s always a pleasure writing for you and I hope you enjoy reading it.

Something New

So you know how I was doing monthly Skype and Phone Call Date Silent Auctions?  Well, I have a lot of fun doing those, and I don’t want to have to stop.  But current changes to my schedule have really limited me.  So I’ve come up with a solution that I think is fair, and pretty simple.

I’m going to have an ongoing sale of the calls.  I’ve posted it here, on my site

All the details are listed there.  I averaged the curve of the bids I’ve gotten in the past and based the prices off of that.  Please check it out!

Also- I’ve brought back the sales of signed 8X10’s by popular demand.  After receiving bunches of emails about it, I thought “Why the hell not”.

So there ya go!  Thanks guys and I can’t wait to talk to you.  And don’t forget about my new radio show!  Details coming soon!


Ashley On Air

Hello everyone and happy Saturday! I’m very pleased to announce to you that I have started my own radio show. Its an Internet based show that I will produce and conduct myself. I’m working on the show’s lineup now. If you tune in (which would rule!), you can expect to to hear a lot about my favorite topic, Football. In the future, I’ll be speaking to a few athletes, scouts, sports radio hosts, PR folks and more. I will also cover current events and other trending topics. Along with other more controversial subjects.

My show will air Tuesday and Thursday nights, 9-1030 PST. And Sunday nights 9-10 PST. Listeners are urged to call in and talk to me. Your participation in the conversation or general questions will be appreciated. And I’ll try my best to get to every one of you.

Thanks for all of your continued support. Stay tuned to my twitter ( for all other details and where you’ll be able to tune in. All the info will be coming soon.

**do you have something you’d like for me to advertise or plug on my show to my listeners? Email me at for pricing and details!**

Thanks again and I’m REALLY looking forward to this. I hope you’ll join me!